I’m fat. Fatter than most, if I’m completely honest. I don’t expect people to bend over backwards to make accommodations for my weight—it’s not their fault I’m a big girl, it’s mine. And frankly, it’s not even completely mine—thanks to genetics, I’ve been dealt a crappy hand in this game that we call life. Still, I’ll admit that I eat poorly most of the time. I’ll admit that I eat too much—I eat when I’m happy, when I’m stressed, when I’m sad, and when I’m bored. The old adage, “You have no one to blame but yourself” certainly applies to me.
Still, I live in a world that wasn’t made for me. And that sucks. And I’m not the only one.
May of my readers have asked me to write a post about how, for those of us who are short, fat, and sassy, everyday activities are a challenge. One reader commented that she couldn’t fit in a school desk. Another said she wishes there were more places and things that fat girls can enjoy, such as XL lingerie and rides with big seats. I agree!!
I took a trip to Six Flags with some friends of mine over the summer. Now, bear in mind, none of us are small people; we’re all fabulous and varying degrees of fluffy. There were rides I couldn’t fit on now that I could fit on 10 years ago. For me, the problem was in the size of my butt and thighs. For my friend Jacquie, the problem was her chest. Jacquie is a DD-DDD (I’m not sure exactly which), so many of the shoulder harnesses wouldn’t close over her boobs.
I understand that a lot of rides are sized the way they are for safety reasons, which is completely understandable, but a few amusement parks I’ve been to have special seats for those guests who are of the larger persuasion. I’d like to see that extended to all amusement parks and all rides where it is possible. I think that, with the growing number of obese people in the world, it would be nice if we could enjoy things like a day out at an amusement park without being reminded of our size—after all, fun doesn’t care what size you are. If Universal Studios could make a special car for those who are bigger, why can’t Six Flags?
This extends to other, more important aspects of life too—movie theatre chairs, compact cars, school desks, office chairs…these are all things I (and several of my readers) have had issues with. I don’t understand the one-size-fits-all mentality out world has. If there’s such a thing as plus-sized fashion, why haven’t chair and car manufacturers jumped on the bandwagon?
Look, I don’t expect the entire world to change just for me, but obesity is an epidemic that cannot be ignored. While there are things that I can do to change my size (and I’m working on it), there are many who cannot, sure to financial, emotional, time, and medical constraints. Luckily, many companies are starting to realize that the “fat epidemic” isn’t just going away. I’ve seen some lovely plus sized lingerie stores (shout out to Curvy Girl Lingerie, a boutique that specializes in lingerie for bigger, curvier women), and stores like Lane Bryant and Catherine’s are realizing that all big girls do NOT belong in Mumus and sparkles.
One day, the world will change. Either people will get skinnier, or the world will become bigger. All I ask is that we meet some sort of middle ground here, now, so that I can enjoy the world to its fullest (pun intended, I suppose).